Danny Stewart

Depression and social loneliness

The Atlantic magazine published an interesting article exploring the concept of loneliness and social isolation in the context of technology and social networking.

I have not used Facebook since 2008, but much of this article applies regardless of what platform you use to communicate online.

A 2010 AARP survey found that 35 percent of adults older than 45 were chronically lonely, as opposed to 20 percent of a similar group only a decade earlier. According to a major study by a leading scholar of the subject, roughly 20 percent of Americans—about 60 million people—are unhappy with their lives because of loneliness. Across the Western world, physicians and nurses have begun to speak openly of an epidemic of loneliness.

I haven’t thought about this in these terms before. I don’t have very many friends, locally or remotely, but the friends I have are close and trusted. However, if I were asked what aspect of my life I am least satisfied with, my response would relate to this loneliness.

“When we drew blood from our older adults and analyzed their white cells,” he writes, “we found that loneliness somehow penetrated the deepest recesses of the cell to alter the way genes were being expressed.” Loneliness affects not only the brain, then, but the basic process of DNA transcription. When you are lonely, your whole body is lonely.

It’s fascinating that something on such a base level as DNA replication can be affected like this. This takes psychosomatic responses to a new level I wouldn’t have thought possible.

Valuing happiness is not necessarily linked to greater happiness. In fact, under certain conditions, the opposite is true. Under conditions of low (but not high) life stress, the more people valued happiness, the lower were their hedonic balance, psychological well-being, and life satisfaction, and the higher their depression symptoms.

The more you try to be happy, the less happy you are. Sophocles made roughly the same point.

The article calls this a “disturbing conclusion,” but I find it rather obvious. If you don’t care about being happy, then you remove a huge potential stressor from your life, thus increasing your overall happiness. Oxymoronic as it sounds, it’s only logical.

Unfortunately, this problem often relates to people’s genetics:

A 2005 analysis of data from a longitudinal study of Dutch twins showed that the tendency toward loneliness has roughly the same genetic component as other psychological problems such as neuroticism or anxiety.

I am a firm believer that our mental processes are fully under our control, but such genetic predispositions can be hard to combat. If you’re predisposed to feel depressed, you have to have the desire and the willpower to struggle through your own emotional state, or else you will get stuck. I know people who are stuck here. They feel trapped and helpless and miserable and tell you there’s nothing they can do and that everything is the fault of circumstances outside of their control.

There is always something you can do, though; you just have to really want it, and it’s my opinion that the people who suffer from chronic depression, on some level, don’t want to break out of a cycle that, though painful, has become familiar to the point of comfort. This is something I went through myself from 2008-2009 (when my depression was at its most severe), and I know now (as I knew on some level back then) that a significant part of me did not want to break out of my depression. I found ways to justify it to myself. “You should feel depressed, because life is unfair and keeps throwing bad things at you. You’re justified in feeling the way that you do. Hiding from it would just be lying to yourself.”

I’ve come a long way since then. I’ve come to the conclusion that my happiness or unhappiness affects no one but me in any meaningful way, and we all have good things and bad things in our lives. There is no reason to perpetuate your own unhappiness when the only person you are hurting is yourself. Life sucks, in a whole bunch of ways, but it’s also pretty great in a bunch of other ways. Don’t get worked up over this stuff. Live within your means, do what you have to do for as long as you have to do it, and do what you want to do for the rest. It never seems that simple, but it often is.

The article is worth a read.

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Thanks for the feedback on this.

Mountain Lion DP3 known issues

Apple just pushed out OS X Mountain Lion Developer Preview 3. Some of the known issues are absolutely hilarious. I almost think they’ve put some of these in here on purpose just to screw with people.

  • Some Apple menu items such as Restart may not work when a sandboxed app is in the foreground
  • Back to My Mac doesn’t work for the first 5 minutes after rebooting
  • Brightness settings may change unexpectedly after reboot

They’re so arbitrary. What I find really funny is that they actually know about all of these and pushed out the update anyway. Surely it would take less effort to fix “If Mail is hidden at logout time, it may not be correctly relaunched during a subsequent login but will appear to be running” than it would to type all that out.

Tactile Pro

With all this chatter online lately about mechanical keyboards, I decided it was time to go out and get one for myself. I happened to already have an Apple Extended Keyboard II in my closet, but regrettably it’s in rather terrible shape. Some of the keys are clicky while others are mushy, and the whole keyboard is almost schoolbus yellow at this point.

I had a choice between the Das Keyboard and the Matias Tactile Pro 3. Everyone says the Das types like a dream, but that it’s big, bulky, and ugly. With that in mind, I decided to take the safer course and opt for the Tactile Pro.

It arrived yesterday, and I’ve been using it since last night. Here are some observations.

First, it’s loud. Disarmingly so. It takes a little while to get used to, but once you do, it’s kind of nice. As Shawn Blanc says above, “A mechanical keyboard engages all the senses but smell and taste.” When you’re sitting at your desk just trying to type something out, it becomes an almost soothing accompaniment.

Second, it looks nice. This is important to me. Just because I never look at my keyboard while I’m typing doesn’t mean I want a big, bulky eyesore on my desk.

The biggest problem I have with the Das Keyboard is that the typeface they use on the letters is ugly. I spent some time looking at pictures of the keyboard last night and I figured out why. The Windows version of the keyboard uses Bank Gothic as the typeface for its letters. I like Bank Gothic. The problem is that they made a stylistic choice to use lowercase letters on the Mac variant of the keyboard instead of uppercase letters like on the Windows version. Bank Gothic has no lowercase letters in its typeface, so they had to switch to a different font for the letters. (If you look closely, you’ll notice that keys without letters on them, such as the number row at the top, are identical to the Windows keys and still in Bank Gothic.) I don’t like that new font anywhere near as much. I think they should have stuck to Bank Gothic and stuck to uppercase letters. If Das were to release a new version of their Mac keyboard either with keys matching their Windows keyboard, or with no key labels at all (like their Ultimate keyboard), I would probably buy one of those. (I am considering buying their Silent model for work. I like my coworkers.)

It’s been a long time since I’ve had a wired keyboard at my desk, so the additional convenience of having two USB ports more readily available to me is also appreciated.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that the key layout is reminiscent of the Apple keyboard design previous to the current slim aluminum keyboards, so I’m having to adjust to a different function key layout. The volume keys are all the way on the right above the number pad. In order to replicate (and expand upon) the functionality of my old keyboard, I’m using Keyboard Maestro to configure F1 and F2 as brightness keys (with a special Control-Command-F1/F2 combo to jump straight to minimum or maximum brightness).

The bottom line is that the keyboard is very satisfying to type on. It encourages a natural flow to whatever you’re doing, whether it’s writing, scrolling through a document, or even gaming. I played a little bit of Fallout: New Vegas using the Tactile Pro last night and found myself noticing the sound but not bothered by it in the slightest.

I’m very satisfied with the purchase so far. In fact, I think this post is significantly longer than it would have been if I’d written it on my old keyboard, and that’s among the highest praise I can think to bestow.